So, usually I try to stay really upbeat with my posted but I just need to vent. As the time comes closer for the baby to come I am starting to have baby showers. This includes one that my mother in-law is throwing for my on September 19th. Now when I first told her this date it worked great but then Sunday we found out that our ward is having their annual chicken burn that same night. Now this would not be a big deal except for the fact that my calling in our ward is ward historian and part of my responsibility is to be at ward activities to take pictures and also document the event as a whole. Along with that Eric is apart of the Ward Mission Leadership and really feels he needs to be there too because they are inviting a lot of the less active members to come and he wants to be there to make them feel welcome. So we decided to ask his mother if we could just postpone the baby shower for a week and do it on the other date that she gave us, so that we could both magnify our callings. Well of course she said absolutely not and even made me feel as though my calling is not important at all. This hurts on more than one level. I have always tried to give my best effort in my callings and also to to all that is asked of me by the Lord. On the other hand I do not like to cause drama or to hurt others. But she is basically making me choose between her and the Lord. How can I choose? On the one hand it is the Lord who has asked me to do this for him. On the other she is apart of my extended family for all eternity. I guess this is just one of those difficult decision we have to make in our lives. It just hurts that she can't she the intents of our hearts. Oh, Lord please do not me become offended but help me find a way to do all that needs to be done. If you have any advice I would greatly appreciate it.
September 1, 2009
Choosing the Better Part
So, usually I try to stay really upbeat with my posted but I just need to vent. As the time comes closer for the baby to come I am starting to have baby showers. This includes one that my mother in-law is throwing for my on September 19th. Now when I first told her this date it worked great but then Sunday we found out that our ward is having their annual chicken burn that same night. Now this would not be a big deal except for the fact that my calling in our ward is ward historian and part of my responsibility is to be at ward activities to take pictures and also document the event as a whole. Along with that Eric is apart of the Ward Mission Leadership and really feels he needs to be there too because they are inviting a lot of the less active members to come and he wants to be there to make them feel welcome. So we decided to ask his mother if we could just postpone the baby shower for a week and do it on the other date that she gave us, so that we could both magnify our callings. Well of course she said absolutely not and even made me feel as though my calling is not important at all. This hurts on more than one level. I have always tried to give my best effort in my callings and also to to all that is asked of me by the Lord. On the other hand I do not like to cause drama or to hurt others. But she is basically making me choose between her and the Lord. How can I choose? On the one hand it is the Lord who has asked me to do this for him. On the other she is apart of my extended family for all eternity. I guess this is just one of those difficult decision we have to make in our lives. It just hurts that she can't she the intents of our hearts. Oh, Lord please do not me become offended but help me find a way to do all that needs to be done. If you have any advice I would greatly appreciate it.
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ReplyDeleteI am just like you. I like to magnify my calling. I would be disappointed in your situation as well. Your mother-in-law should be more understanding about what is important to you, especially since she is supposedly doing this shower for you. But there is another perspective to think about here. This is a once in a lifetime experience - having your first baby. You need to let people pamper you and do things for you (because when you have other kids it won't be the same because you will always have another to take care of). If you put aside the fact that your mother-in-law is being a bit irritating and try to forget about that aspect of it, then you can enjoy this time in your life and have a great time at the baby shower. The great thing about the organization and the teachings of the church is that there is always someone else who can back you up in your calling. Eric isn't the only ward missionary, and someone else can be asked to take pictures with your camera. While you two will miss the opportunity to be a part of it, you can rest assured that things on your part will be taken care of.
ReplyDeleteOn another note, it may pay to try to understand your mother-in-law. Once the date was decided she probably got excited about planning and either told everyone to save the date already or already made invitations. It takes a lot of work to throw a baby shower, and a lot of money.
I hope you feel better about things soon and make the decision that is best for everyone. Love you!
Hmm...well if she's already sent out invitations, bought food that will expire, and told a lot of people about the date, I can see why she would be upset. But if she hasn't done any of these things and it can easily be postponed, stick to your guns and do what you feel is right. However, it is really *nice* of her to do this for you so if you'd rather not burn bridges, the Lord will understand. And a baby shower brings lots of useful blessings! If you choose family, I'm sure your ward will be just fine. Don't give yourself too much guilt. :)
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